“Look so Good it Feels Dangerous to Go Out!”

Now over the fashion firsts and faux-pas, from the Oscars and Fashion Week in Vancouver, spring arrives dressed in sunny elements and cherry blossoms.

Jasjit Rai - Fashion Stylist
Jasjit Rai in Evening Attire

Jasjit and I met at Artigiano; a barrista’s dream in downtown Vancouver.  While the long Olympic line-ups filled Granville Street outside she and I sat at a small round table inside amid the hubbub: excited talk and laughter, ringing phones and passers-by.  We moved smoothly into an hour of discussion regarding fashion.  Once settled I asked Jasjit to tell me about her new business centered on:   Fashion Styling and Self-Expression.

“Style is more lasting than fashion,” Jasjit tells me, “It is like your personal signature.”

One of her services is:  the Wardrobe Audit. It begins with a Needs Assessment.

The assessment is to find out the purpose of the client’s requirements.  Jasjit will ask questions such as:

“What makes you feel good?” She receives inspirations for the client by their answers.

Once the assessment is completed, the client is ready for their Wardrobe Cleanse.

I ask Jasjit, “How does energy get blocked into our clothing… do clothes have memory?”

“Who we are gets poured into our clothing; over time there is more of ‘Me’ in it,” Jasjit replies. “Clothes become drenched with who we were at a certain time.”

The clothing continues to contain the consciousness of the wearer and how they expressed themselves.  The person has moved on but the clothing hasn’t.

Once in awhile Jasjit knows from body language she will have a tug-of-war on her hands: the person holds tightly to the article. If it’s not too invasive Jasjit considers letting it ‘blend’ with other items that may fit together.

I ask, “Is it a sentimental clutch or a crutch?” Jasjit checks their body language to help her decide on the answer to this question as she works.  She states, “Again, it goes back to the clothing containing the chi, or energy, of the wearer.”

Part of the cleansing includes tips and tricks to update:

There are classic items that every wardrobe needs along with the fun and more frivolous buys that add variety and style to an outfit.

Jasjit has helped clients pull armloads of $20 stylish blouses from sale sources.  At this price I ask if she considers these, “wash or toss!”

When the person does not know “what works,” Jasjit will create a Personal Look Book for them in which she will email images to take shopping with them.

Jasjit wants to bring out the best in everyone and not only is she successful in doing so, but her clients enjoy the process of discovery about their true aesthetic, unveiling who they are now at this point in life.

Bringing out a client’s true energy or true self is the special gift that Jasjit has committed to each individual she works with.

I asked why women hang on to clothing that no longers suits their look or fits their lifestyle. Jasjit calls this, fear of the unknown, or “clinging.”  The client’s inner voice defends the past; “I knew that part of me.” and the new identity could feel risky.

Jasjit told me she was able to release the inner self of a client by taking an architectural approach to their wardrobe. Once the timeless proportions, and beautiful lines of the garments were gracing this woman, Jasjit was filled with joy to bring out what she saw as this person’s “grandeur.”

I wanted to speak person to person with Jasjit because her clients have extolled her virtues in testimonials:

"Elaine"

“I look so good, it feels dangerous to go out! Thanks so much.  Line up the clients, I can see them fighting their way to your door.” Elaine  – Musician

"Rebecca"

“I really felt like I was stuck in a style rut.  I was defaulting to what was easy and comfortable, but not really thinking about how to put an outfit together that looked polished.  My business is fairly casual, so I was dressing accordingly.  But Jasjit talked about the possibility of attracting a higher-paying category of client, and I may be more attractive to that kind of person if I dressed in a more professional, upscale way.  I now feel like my wardrobe reflects ‘Rebecca Coleman, Marketing Professional.’  My wardrobe is an investment in my business and therefore, myself.  And I’m worth it!” Rebecca  –  Media Consultant

"Sulia"
"Sulia" - Versatility of Ties

“I have successfully worn the jean jacket, the dark grey trench coat, the short jacket with fluffy sleeves, the black pants, the reddish wrap around top, and of course, the knitted top.  I am happy wearing every one of these pieces.  They feel like they are really me; just different facets of me.  THANK YOU!”  Sulia

“I am extremely intrigued at your smouldering affair with ties.  Given that I consider your taste and style as being on the level of goddess… the thought of speaking in ties – to the extent that my name came up… is something of a knighthood.”  Rory (“A Guy” BTW)  – Musician

Choose a new look, cleanse your wardrobe, or enjoy the benefits of shopping with your own personal stylist.  Jasjit works to fit your needs and your budget, by incorporating elements of the current season along with your lifestyle to create a more stylish and confident you. Book a free initial assessment at 604-644-9362 or info@joiworks.com

Contact information is at this link to Jasjit Rai’s Blog where you can read more about her as well as exciting up-dates on fashion and styling: http://joiworks.wordpress.com/

Copyright © 2010 Nicole Rigets

The Eagle and the Ego

Today was of the special variety that I experience randomly and want to add more of to my life.  It’s a day when nothing can ruffle me; I sail along with no fears, no worries, no upsets. I didn’t have any concrete plans made in advance so I didn’t have to get snarly when life moved impulsively into my morning.  Instead of writing this post at 2 p.m., as I intended, I got together with a friend who rang just to see if we could meet for coffee in my neighborhood.  Painting the day with flexibility keeps me happy.  There is no need to routinely cross off the must-do’s on the list in any special order. What doesn’t get finished today can be added to tomorrow’s list.  Was I blissful because nothing went sideways throughout the day? Or was it my fresh attitude and faith in life itself that brought unequivocal and dynamic energy into my realm, in perfect synch with others, rewarding me with the wonderful feelings I attracted.

I was careful to watch my thoughts today and keep them supported upward.  Being negative never allows me to fulfill my dreams or handle risk taking.  Rather than resisting intrusions I make the decision to embrace them and redesign the day.  The recapture of energy by not forcing my will on on the clock is abundant.  If, however, I keep repeating I’m too busy and can’t fit anything in, guess what happens:  exactly what I’ve told myself and the world returns what I’ve told it to.  I give the Universe a chance to understand I am communicating to receive positive vibes and outcomes.  It sounds corny yet I was amazed that what I had read about does work perfectly well.

I started off out the door of our building to see my friend Sonny and as I approached the intersection I looked up into the sky to identify a bird flying in slow circles.  Too big to be a crow, I realized it was a baby eagle.   The circles he was making were small, baby circles. Even birds show a respect for the young as they left him alone to practice learning his flight patterns. Adult eagles get verbally blasted and dive-bombed by crows and seagulls in our area but this little guy was left in peace.

I was early to meet Sonny and I remembered a conversation yesterday with one of my very close friends.  They mentioned taking things slow because they did not want to miss a step or mis-step; or worse, make a mis-take as they proceeded along a new path.  I was surprised.  I’m a risk taker so I am impulsive; quite the opposite of this person.  But like the baby eagle, if I think I can fly I will try it.  If I lose a few feathers or make other birds laugh I don’t mind.  I might get a little red in the face but I’m living and alive!!

What if baby birds wouldn’t try to fly because they were afraid of falling or failing.  What if they would only fly if they could form perfect circles.  It’s not in our nature to be perfect; it’s something that is learned and practiced once we leave childhood and compete and work in an ego-based outside world.  A world outside of ourselves where we may have to compensate for shaky self-esteem.  It’s not healthy to thwart ourselves when we can blast off and get to the core of our quest.

I told my friend that holding back didn’t make sense; that it’s ego talking.  Ego that thinks everyone is watching us, waiting for us to make a faux pas, and then ridicule us.  Yet everyone fails their way to success.  Even rocks, as steady as they are, will take a fall at some point in their stony life.  The  last thing we need is to stay in one spot and never move because we’ve let our ego fill our minds with nonsense.

At Art School no one tells you how to do things.  There will be a short talk, and if you’re lucky a demonstration, but no one can do it for you because they don’t have your mind, body , and spirit.  Only you can make the finished work by experimenting.  Marcus Bowcott, my painting teacher says, “You’ve gotta’ break a few eggs to make an omelet!” Go ahead and scramble into something new. Don’t listen to your head, listen to your heart. The heart holds only love:  no fear. Never pull back when the momentum takes you on a roll to a passion for what you were meant to do.

I just tore a week off the calendar and in a sweep of the arm the week was gone.  It woke me up with the thought that every moment must be loved:  have, think, and do only what you love! Be the little eagle who loves to fly.

Copyright © 2010 Nicole Rigets